1.31.2019

A wonderful day of HOPE!

hope
/hōp/
noun
1. a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen.
synonyms: aspiration, desire, wish, expectation, ambition, aim, plan, dream, daydream, pipe dream;

This was the gift we received today. HOPE.

After two years of hearing, "You can't" since surrendering our family to foster care/adoption, we finally heard the two words for which we have been praying to roll off the tongue of a foster agency specialist. “You CAN!”  

Last week, we took a huge leap of faith and turned in our application to become a Resource Family. 
Step #1Step #2Step #3, and Step #4 (still a work in progress), were all steps that required surrender, obedience, and trust. And each one lead us here. 
Step #5! Officially applying to become a Resource Family!

We applied to be certified as an Emergency Shelter Home for babies, with extra training for specialized medical needs. We made it through the paper interview, and today we made it through the first personal interview! Next, our entire family meets with a social worker, and if approved, we will begin the 4-6 month certification process. Which means, if all goes well, we could be holding a baby by summer! THIS summer!

My phrase, when asked, has been, "We are excited, but contained." We know there are still hurdles to jump and mountains to climb, and more importantly, God's timing may not match our own, so we wait with expectant patience knowing His timing is perfect.
When He says GO - we will march! 
When He says STOP - we will halt!
And when the enemy attacks we will tell him to stuff his weapons in a sack and take a flying leap off the nearest cliff!
It is the Lord who called us to the adoption and foster care world, and it is He who will prepare us, protect us, and provide for us. Our God is faithful and He does not abandon those He calls!
We have absolutely no idea what lies ahead, but that is okay because our God DOES. Our job is not to worry about tomorrow. Our job is to keep walking forward in obedience and trust Him with the details. And so - we will!

After our interview, I wanted to set up an Ebenezer stone. One that represented the HOPE that shined brightly on this gray, rainy day. 
I packed up Josiah, Isaiah, and Ellie and drove to the nearest store that boasted a collection of baby items.
I wanted something we could look at every day that screams, "They will come! The babies WILL come!"
And now, these soft, sweet security blankets sit on our mantle next to our Orphan Care jar to remind us that our plans may be good - but God's plans are BEST. 

January 31, 2019.
The day the Lord gave us tangible HOPE for our adoption and foster care journey.
How fitting that Ellie, Josiah, and Isaiah read Proverbs 31 for our devotions this morning.
Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, for the rights of all who are destitute.
Speak up and judge fairly; defend the rights of the poor and needy. Proverbs 31:8, 9


Lord, thank You for today! Thank You for being faithful to bring us to this place after almost three years of waiting on You to prepare our family for what You want us to do. You did not just call me and Dennis, for when You call the parents to foster or adopt, You call the children too. Thank You for giving our children the desire and the passion to serve these babies. Thank you for giving them the ability to understand the need, and to step in and meet it. You know our desire is to have babies in our home to hold and love and snuggle, but we know that all of our plans are subject to Your will, so we pray You will prepare us for YOUR plans, even if they look nothing like ours. We did not start this journey, Lord. You set us on it, from the very beginning, with purpose, and with an expectation that we would obey. We have had fears, we have had setbacks, and we have doubted ourselves, but through each one, You have reminded us that YOU ARE GOD and there is nothing that is too difficult for You. Thank You for this truth, Father, and may we be faithful to cling to it in the weeks and months ahead so we are not distracted or discouraged when the days are long and difficult. We love You. Please, teach us to love You more!

1.17.2019

Luke's 2019 adventure!


The siblings posed with Luke before we sent him off on his long-awaited Alaskan Adventure! 


Chaperoned by Chris & Lexie, the trio will spend three days viewing, photographing, and standing in awe of the NORTHERN LIGHTS! The predicted “high” is 0 degrees Fahrenheit, so we hope he makes it home with all of his fingers - and his nose! ❄️☃️❄️⛄️
They are going to have a fantastic time exploring the great state of Alaska,
and if all goes as planned, Luke will get to drive a dogsled! 


And to top it off, his new dog - ORION - will be waiting for him when he returns. 💙
He has been dreaming of this dog for Y E A R S. And now, the dream is becoming a reality!
2019 is starting off well for our Luke!

1.11.2019

Emulating their example, and encouraged to do so!

During the twenty-five years Dennis and I have been married, we have been blessed to walk through the foster and adoption process with several friends and family members. We witnessed the frustrations and setbacks in paperwork and fundraising. We watched couples battle impatience while waiting to be selected as parents by the birth mom or discover which child from the orphanage would become their own. We wept with them when the child they thought was theirs, the child they prayed over for months, was taken away and not always replaced with another. We shared in their hurt over the criticism and lack of support from family and friends. Each one was difficult, and often, disheartening. 

And yet, not one of those families regretted their decision. None ever said, "It wasn't worth it." The time, the energy, the emotion, the tears, the disappointments, the heartache, the sacrifices ... every family we know declares they would do it again a thousand times.
Why?
To quote David Platt, "Orphans are easier to ignore before you know their names. They are easier to ignore before you see their faces. It's easier to pretend they are not real before you hold them in your arms. But once you do, everything changes."

The families who invited us to share in their journey not only educated us about the realistic hurdles and heartaches that accompany foster care and adoption, they showed us the Gospel.
obedience
prayer
surrender
sacrifice
faith
trust
defending the weak
speaking for those who cannot speak for themselves
considering others needs before your own
hope
gratitude
peace in the midst of sorrow
joy
Each family modeled these with honesty, with vulnerability, and with grace. Even on the worst days when nothing went right, discouragement lurked around every corner, and the "why" of orphan care got lost in the ugliness of the hard moments - they cried out, "This is worth it!!!!!" They may not have liked all of it or even liked themselves or their kids some days, but they made a commitment to be ALL IN. And their faithfulness to care for, protect, serve, love, and speak the Gospel to every child in their home put hands and feet on their commitment. And I stood in awe of them.

Fast forward a decade when the Lord swept a new group of foster and adoption women into my life through the Orphan Care ministry at church. They allow me in, they let me ask questions, they speak freely about their experiences, they enthusiastically declare the beautiful moments of redemption and healing and humbly confess the devastating moments, and every time we are together, no matter how much they are battling with all of the hurt and brokenness that comes with raising children of trauma, they are able and willing to praise God and give thanks for the children He purposefully placed in their families. And I stand in awe of them.

Now, the Lord is calling our family to join them. Babies - birth parents - social workers ... we have no idea with whom or how the Lord plans to use us in this world of foster care, but His calling was clear. And we had to respond. 
As soon as we said, "Yes, Lord!" Dennis looked at me and said, "Hold on! It's going to be a bumpy ride!" And, boy, was he RIGHT. Though we have not experienced a tenth of what other families have endured in the foster care/adoption process, the road is not newly paved, and we have needed to remind each other of the "why" so we do not give up before the going actually gets tough.

Even better? Realizing that we are not alone in this adventure. The Lord does not call His people to His work and then abandon them in the work. He is there - a very present help - day in and day out. And then, after providing Himself, He sends others to join in the work! Encouragement, prayer, wisdom, advice, financial support, supplies, contacts, shared passion ... there is no end to the ways He uses the body of Christ to "stir one another up to love and good deeds." Which brings me to the origin of this post.

Yesterday, we received an unexpected gift in the mail with this note:
Dennis and Michelle,
Long ago my parents, your grandparents, started a tradition of saving coins and putting them into a rubber squeaky toy. When the grandchildren came for a visit, one would have the delight to receive this toy. This continued until the last one received their turn. They kept saving coins and putting them in the toy but didn't give it to anyone. 
When I was cleaning out their home after selling it, I found and kept that toy with its contents not knowing what I would do with it. Also, during said time, while cleaning out your father's bedroom (Dennis' birth father, Jack), I came across more coins in bags and jars. So, in honor of the tradition, I am sending these coins to go toward your fund for foster care. I don't know how much it is, but hope it helps. Love, Aunt Jerri

You can imagine our delight with such a thoughtful and sentimental gift. How sweet it would have been if Grandma and Grandpa Bold and Jack could have known where their saved coins were going. I cannot help but think that Grandma would have smiled with tears in her eyes, and Jack would have grinned his endearing "Jack grin." ❤ Thank you, Aunt Jerri, for such a precious gift. ❤

Dennis' sister Denise has been our loudest cheerleader since the day we announced our news about surrendering to foster care/adoption. Like Dennis, she was in foster care as an infant until Mom and Dad Eastman took her home, so this ministry is near and dear to her heart.
Every Christmas her birth-siblings draw names for a gift exchange, and in addition to a gift, Denise donates money to a charity/group/person that is meaningful to that sibling, in their name.
After a quick visit with Dennis right before Christmas, Denise sent him home with an envelope and told us to read it together. We were stunned to discover she had chosen our family to receive her donation!
She included a copy of her letter to her sibling in our card, and melted my heart with these words, "I know how important this is to your family and I don't want you to get discouraged."
♥You are amazing, Denise, and we love you.♥

Every good and perfect gift is from above,
coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, with whom there is no change or shifting shadow. James 1:17

A fantastic finish to our Bird Study!


As we wrap up our ornithology unit, I wanted to find birds we could interact with in real life. 
After a short internet search, the option presented itself - 🦜Exotic Bird Stores! 🦜

The self-guided field trip was fanTAStic! The birds were out in the open to observe and the staff was friendly, helpful, and overflowing with information about each one.
We were allowed to hold them, talk to them, feed them, and dance with them! (Yep, I said DANCE!)

Visiting a bird store never occurred to me, but I have to say - I enjoyed the visit far more than my children and laughed the entire time! SO.MUCH.FUN!



Isaiah and Ellie preferred the smaller birds. And they were thrilled to be able to hold them!





Interesting note about this bird: The coloring of this Macaw cannot be found in the wild because ... it was man-created by breeding red Macaws with yellow Macaws. They call it a "hybrid." The photo does not do the colors justice. She was STUNNING in real life!


I worked hard to earn the affection of this Grey Parrot named "Max."
He only likes old women and blondes, so the manager warned me that my efforts would probably not pay off. I was persistent because he was funny and had a unique personality. When I talked to him, he just stared at me, acting unmoved by my wooings. The second I turned away from him, however, he would call out, "Hello!" or start clicking his tongue to get my attention.
Finally, I was rewarded when he bowed his head and scratched his neck with his talons inviting me to pet him. Yes! SUCCES! The manager stopped and said, “Wow! He doesn’t let ANYone touch him!”
Who knows, maybe when my kids are grown and gone I will become a bird whisperer! 😂🦜🙃🦉🤣🦅

Interacting with God's creation is a DELIGHT!

1.09.2019

A Creation Classroom!


We all needed to get outside in the wide, open, beautiful spaces of Creation today.
We didn't realize how much we needed to do so until our toes were wriggling in the sand and the sound of waves were crashing all around us. The weather was gorgeous and we soaked up every ounce of sun and walked and played and read and worked until we had to force ourselves to return home.
It was a fanTAStic homeschooling day!












We do read-alouds every day (the Bible and poetry) and today, while fighting to be heard over the sound of the waves while reading, I was inspired by a scene from the film The Great Debaters.
We had a short lesson about enunciation and projection when speaking publicly, and then I had Josiah, Isaiah, and Ellie sit on the rocks closest to the breaking waves to read their poems.
At first, they saw absolutely no point or benefit in the exercise. Once they tried reading loud enough to be heard over the noise of the waves and squawking seagulls, however; they understood!
Nature really IS an excellent classroom!





1.08.2019

Adoption + Foster Care + Special Needs = A Night of BEAUTY!


It's HAPPENING!
Beth and I filmed our video announcement for our event!

Our Special Needs ministry and our Orphan Care ministry are linking arms to highlight the focus of both ministries and, more importantly, highlight the God who moves the hearts of men and women across the world to answer the call and meet the needs of the neglected, forgotten, and ignored.

Our desire is to emphasize the importance of adoption and foster care
and
celebrate the truth that EVERY life is precious in the sight of God.

The Drop Box documentary
Wednesday night, January 23rd, 7:00 pm
Kindred Community Church sanctuary

You will be challenged,
convicted,
and moved to tears
while observing the faithfulness of Pastor Lee who uses his one life to change the lives of many.

Because the Lord used The Drop Box to fully surrender our family to adoption and foster care, my prayer is that He will call others to this same battlefield after witnessing the extraordinary commitment and devotion of a man who saw an overwhelming need and responded, "Here am I, Lord. Send ME!"
May we follow Pastor Lee's example and prayerfully consider how we can make a difference in the lives of the 500,000+ children who need to know they are precious in the sight of God.

Ignorance is bliss, but awareness is accountability.

We cannot do EVERYthing, but we can do SOMEthing.

We hope you will join us for this inspiring event.