Go fishing!

I have shared my passion for drawing the deep waters out of people before ... how I was challenged in college to look past the mask that people wear and see what is on the inside.  It really was life changing for me!  When I flip through letters or come across an old note, I am reminded of how the Lord has used this passion to create friendships and relationships that might never have happened had I accepted what was shown to me at face value.  There is always, always, always something more than meets the eye - especially when it comes to the heart of a person.

In the past weeks I have had a few people ask me about my "list of questions."  I do not have an actual list anymore, but there are times I wish I did!  Though my mind is not usually blank when it comes to asking people about themselves, there are times I feel the need for a little push in the right direction. So, I started writing some of them down.  This is by no means exhaustive, so if you have some to share, please do!

It is amazing how many people look at me and say, "No one has ever asked me that before!"  And nine times out of ten, we end up in a long, deep discussion as they share their hurts, struggles, and need for encouragement and strengthening in the Lord.  It is a wonderful thing to be trusted with the heart of another!  It's funny ... I used to be teased mercilessly for my questions - eye rolling and groaning - you name it!  But now?  Not so much.  The amount of brothers and sisters in Christ the Lord has brought into my life through these questions that result in "mutually encouraging one another in the faith" are precious to me.  And as long as I have breath I will keep asking!  Not because it brings me pleasure, but because people need to be asked ... they need to have someone go fishing in their hearts.  And I will always be ready to cast my line into the water! 

Questions to help draw out the deep waters in the heart of another.

~ Where is the Lord leading you in Scripture right now?
~ When was the last time you shared something personal with someone?
~ What is the BEST part of being Kevin/Lisa/Arnold/Stephanie?
~ If you could ask the Lord to enhance one character quality in you, which would you choose?
~ If you could choose one item to represent your walk with the Lord, what would it be?  Explain it.
~ What is the world trying to make you conform to that you are fighting with all your might?
~ How would you create the perfect friend - what would he/she look like?
~ How do you feel most loved/appreciated?  time, gifts, words of affirmation, affection, acts of service
~ When do you feel most secure?
~ What is your favorite attribute of God?  Why?
~ Which apostle is your favorite?
~ Who do you identify with more - the God of the Old Testament or the Jesus of the New?
~ What character quality do you most cherish in a friend?
~ What three things would others say are your best qualities?
~ Which part of heaven do you most long to see?
~ When was the last time you went out of your way to encourage someone?
~ How has the Lord been encouraging your heart?
~ What is your greatest fear?
~ Which biographies have you read?  
~ Who inspires you most in your walk with the Lord?
~ What was the best quality/standard your parents ever instilled in you?
~ What are your children enjoying most about you right now?
~ Which character trait would you would pay money to have more of?
~ What is the Lord making painfully clear in your life right now … something you would rather not address, but know you are disobedient if you do not?
~ How often are you quiet and still before the Lord?
~ What is something you want to be remembered before after you die?
~ What verse/passage is convicting you right now?
~ If You could ask God to change one of your weaknesses, which would you choose?
~ Are you vulnerable and transparent with people?  If not why?  If so - how?
~ What is your greatest passion right now?
~ What book of the Bible have you always avoided reading?  Why?
~ How have you seen God changing the way that you see yourself? 
~ What are you struggling with?  
~ How can I pray for you specifically?  
~ What can you praise the Lord for today?

And, of course, there are the fun, light-hearted, silly ones for the times you just need to get the ball rolling!

what ice cream flavor could you eat every day for the rest of your life?
which super power would you like to have for a day?
what country would you most like to visit?
favorite season of the year - why?
stomach, side, or back sleeper?
feet in the covers or out?
favorite restaurant?
best childhood memory?
and on it goes!

Go ahead!  Take these for a spin and enjoy watching the responses you get from people.  Remember - everyone likes to feel appreciated and valued, and when you ask a meaningful question about them, YOU will be the one making them feel that way!

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